Monthly Archive: June 2014

Jun 16

Killers in the Family – Part 2; Talking Heart2Heart



Family members are allowing these killers to work through them, apparently, they are not aware of the damage it’s causing to the structure of the family. The damage even threatens the future generations because of the cracked foundation that they are forced to build upon, and your structure is only as good as your foundation. The motive of these killers are to destroy the family by any means necessary, but the killers can only work through a willing party. So when you talk about other family members in a negative way you are a willing party choosing to do a killing . When you allow the killer jealousy, envy, back-biting, bitterness, or hatred to use you as a tool against your own family, just be aware that you are one in the same. You are actually attacking yourself as well because you are connected by a bloodline. All of these killers are pure poison to the family, and it will eventually breakdown the family. Matthew 7:1 “Judge not, that ye be not judged.”



Sometimes when poison gets into your system, no amount of medicine can stop the infection. Once infection spreads, it’s almost impossible to stop it because infection can run rapidly with the intent to breakdown and destroy the system. With that being said, it’s the same when the poison of jealousy, envy, back-biting, bitterness, and hatred gets into the family. Sometimes apologies are just not enough to repair the damage of the poison. This poison travels from family member to family member and so on and before you know it the chaos has exploded in the family. James 4:11 “Speak not evil one of another, brothers/sisters. He that speak evil of his brother/sister, and judge his brother/sister speak evil of the law, and judge the law: but of thou judge the law, thou art not a of the law, but a judge.”

Once you give the poison of jealousy, envy, backbiting, and hatred an entrance family members may avoid each other, or refuse to attend family functions because the killers has taken control. This is the type of destruction these killers will cause in the family, and you will someday look back and wonder how the situation got to this point. So it’s the responsibility of each family member to guard their heart, mind, mouth, and emotions. We must learn to communicate with each other in a loving way. John 15:12 “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.” There’s none among us who are perfect, but we all should put forth an effort to grow.

As a family unit, all must cover for your brothers and sisters because as you do so you are also covering yourself. When another family member gains wealth or fame, you should rejoice as well because you are apart of the same family. It’s important to cast down all known and unknown killers to prevent destruction to a God ordained unit, FAMILY. We, the family members must step up and carry on as (Big Momma) taught us to do. Proverbs 6:20 “do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” Every family has had or have a (Big Momma), but when she’s no longer physically with us the family tends to fall apart. So I’m challenging all families to recall the teachings of your (Big Momma), and get back to loving each other as families should. Let’s be that fist which has more power than the fingers when they are spread apart.



We can be that power house of a unit because of the Love of God who dwells inside our hearts. Start loving each other on purpose with a sincere heart and good intentions knowing that you are in the will of God because family is God’s creation. Remember, what you pray or wish for others will eventually show up in your life, so make sure you are doing His will. Galatians 6:7 “Don’t be deceived: God is not mocked; for whatever you SOW, you will REAP it.” So enjoy life, be kind to one another, love hard, love deep, love long, and watch as Gods’ blessings overtake your family because anywhere God continually dwells the blessings are sure to follow. God is Love, and we are to love each other with our whole heart, mind and soul.


God has placed each of us in a family, and it’s our responsibility to keep the devil from destroy that which God has given to us. I hope this post will open every family members eyes to see the devil for what he is; a destroyer. He hates any and everything God has already said, is good.

Jun 11

Killers in the Family – Part 1; Talking Heart2Heart


Words are the KILLERS in the FAMILY...



In the beginning family was created by love. Genesis 1:26-27 “Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness’…So God created man in His own image; He created him in the image of God; He created them male and female.” Family is a group of people who share a bloodline and an ancestry background which is a common interest. Family is supposed to be a support system and a safety net in which you can expose your most inner thoughts without being judged. Family should be your most reliable source in any situation. Family members should be your confidant, best friend, and your go to in time of need. But in today’s society this is far from the description of family because a number of killers in the family which includes but not limited to jealousy, envy, back-biting, conniving, bitterness, and hatred. Proverbs 10:12 “Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs.” Family members should always cover for each other but steer in the right direction.

Families use to stick together through the good and the bad times. If one family member had to fight, then the fight was on with the family. There was never a time when a family member had to face any situation alone because without a doubt you knew your family had your back. Well, that’s not the case today. There’s no longer a high regard for family because of killers like jealousy, back-biting, and bitterness. When you have a Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, and cousins alike participating in destroying your own family, then enemies are no longer a threat to you because the war is taking place inside of your own camp. Proverbs 11:29 “Those who bring trouble on their families will have nothing at the end. Foolish people will always be servants to the wise.”




Whenever a sister talks about a sister, or a cousin talks about a cousin, the family is weakened. This is the work of the killer-backbiting and conniving, and you think just because you are family this is allowed. Matthew 18:15 “If thy brother/sister trespass against thee, go and tell him/her faults between you and them alone.” This is also the work of a coward because you talk to other family members about a particular family member, when you should talk directly to the person. Proverbs 30:12 “There is a class of people who are pure in their own eyes, and you are not washed from your own (sins) filth.” This type of negativity chips at the very core of the foundation of the family. When the foundation of any structure cracks, it puts everything built upon that structure at risk. Mark 3:25 “And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”

It’s sad, but there are some family members that enjoy seeing other family members suffer through hard times. Many give their opinion of the situation in a sarcastic way, but never lend a helping hand. On the other hand, some lend that hand only to talk to other family members about what they have done for the struggling family member. Matthew 6:2 “So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.” Then you try to explain your actions by saying, “I was only trying to help,” but if you are honest with yourself you know this is not true. This is the type of killer that continues to destroy families today, and until this is called out for what it is; the family will suffer at the hands of these killers.

There has been a threat on the family since Adam and Eve, and the threat is even stronger today. These are the same killers that caused Adam and Eve to sin against Gods’ kingdom, but we have the power and the authority to stand firmly on the word of God. Families are stronger when there’s unity as they represent one accord and power. The backbone of family has always been unity, but it has been weakened over the years. We have allowed the enemy to weaken the family with killers like jealousy, envy, and back-biting. This is a trick of the devil. The first family was created by God, and after he created Adam, he said that it’s not good for man to be alone. Genesis 2:18 “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” So Eve was formed from Adam’s rib. Then, in Genesis 3, the serpent was used as a weapon to deceive EVE but not ADAM because God gave him the command not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and blessing and calamity. The sin was committed when the thought was entertained of disobeying God even before they ate the fruit.


Jun 03

Constructive or Destructive Power – Part 2; Talking Heart2Heart



The tongue is a weapon that has the power to lead you in a positive or negative direction. James 3:5-6 “Even so the tongue is a little member, and boast great things. Behold how great a matter a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, [The tongue is a] world of wickedness set among our members, contaminating the body and setting on fire the wheel of birth (the cycle of man’s nature), being itself ignited by hell.”

You must take responsibility for what comes out of your mouth without justification. Matthew 12:37 “For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” The tongue is a small member of the body, yet it is one of the most damaging tools you have. On the other hand, this can be a positive force in your life that can lead you to the path of success. Your fate in life depends on your attitude of heart and self-control as to which power you will allow in your life. So will you be a constructive leader or a destructive follower?

If you take control of your thoughts by leading them, your tongue will follow suit. The thought comes then you speak, but it’s important to process your thoughts before expressing them because it could very well be your last expression. We are living in a time where everyone appears to be on edge. Have you ever heard of so many random killings as we do today? These killings are reported, and the first thing they say is “this is not the person I knew.” But no one really knows that inner man but that man or woman.

Every thought that enters your mind is not to be expressed, this seems to be an issue in America today. For some apparent reason, we think we can say whatever, whenever, and to whomever we feel like expressing thought. This is not only inappropriate and rude, but it can also be very damaging in which sometimes it may cost you. You must remember with every action there is a reaction, so consequences are sure to follow rather it be a constructive or a destructive action2 Corinthians 5:10 “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.”




Everyone has the right to express themselves, but it should be done in a constructive way. Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” Dr. King and many others are great examples of demonstrating freedom of speech in a constructive way. As the demonstrations and protests had no negative intentions of causing harm to anyone, but to express one’s individual rights and equality for all. Many times when this right is denied, the constructive behavior results into a destructive way out of mere frustration at which time self-control is needed. Freedom of speech is a right for all, but you must follow the proper process to embark upon the constructive power of strength, unity, advancement, and growth. Even though we have come so far in this world, we still have such a long way to go because we don’t respect each other and our God-given differences.





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