Monthly Archive: March 2014

Mar 26

Close the Cracks; Talking Heart2Heart

Close cracks


We have a lot of cracks in our system, and we must give our immediate attention  to these issues which threaten the success of our children. It’s important that we close the cracks to avoid any children falling through them. Our children are the future of tomorrow, but we are not investing in our most prize possession. Investments need a certain amount of attention to make sure that you get the best return for your money. Psalm 127:3 “Behold, children are a heritage from Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”

Many of our children deal with neglect in one form or another, but it doesn’t seem to be a concern. What ever happened to the term “I am my brothers’ keeper”? The term of endearment expresses concern enough to get involved. The neglect is observed by family members, neighbors, bus drivers, and teachers to name a few.  These authoritative members stand on the sidelines in silence while the cracks continue to expand and children fall through.

The definition of neglect is failing to meet the needs which is also a form of abuse. So if children complain of hunger, have body odor, hair unwashed, inadequate clothing, dirty clothing, lack dental or medical attention then it’s clearly neglect. We can no longer stand by, and allow them to fall through the cracks when we have the ability to close the cracks. We have to report issues as we observe them for the sake of the children. Children are defenseless, so who will close the cracks for them?

Birthing children is not an automatic certification for becoming a parent and with the rapid growth of neglect it’s obvious. Psalm 139:13 “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.” There are so many young parents who lack the proper skills of parenting, so the neglect may not be intentional. One’s ability to parent is based on the level of one’s understanding, and when a young parent is a part of this equation neglect is sometimes inevitable.

Often times young parents don’t realize the dependency children need, and the attitude is they are fine or they have to learn to be independent one day. But the level of intelligence of parents can definitely affect children negatively, and many times it results to neglect. So we must take into consideration that parents do what they know until they are given other alternatives. Mark 9:37 “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me, receives not me but him who sent me.”

When you offer these alternatives, it may not be accepted well. Because parents become defensive, but for the sake of the children we must be willing to accept the challenge. This is the only way to close the cracks, so even with the attitude, defensiveness, and unwillingness it’s worth saving the children. This process will not be easy, and it may even be necessary to separate the parent from the child for a short period. All of which must be done for the well-being of the children.

close the cracks

Close the Cracks to avoid any children falling through…

Closing the cracks is harmful to the future of our children, so we can’t waste any time moving on this issue. There are resources available to both the parent and the neglected child. Parents need to know how to care for children, so offering parenting classes, support groups, family support, counseling, and professional therapy will help with this issue.

Neglectful parents need to be taught how to meet the basic needs of children, such as feeding, clothing, keeping them safe, providing medical and dental care. Parents must parent by preparing meals, bathing children, and dressing them appropriately which is caring for them. Because young children need constant supervision because of their lack of ability to sense danger.

The cracks will only be closed if we all address this issue as if it affects us personally. The only way to close the cracks is for everyone to attack this issue by becoming involved in your community. We have to be present in the moment now because the future of our children literally depends on it. We can no longer close our eyes or our hearts to an issue as serious as neglect. If you witness this type of behavior which is clearly neglect, you must close the crack and save the children.
With that being said, will you help us close the cracks? Please leave your comment below.

Mar 19

Live Forever on Earth; Talking Heart2Heart

A Servant's Heart Lives Forever....

A Servant’s Heart Lives Forever….

The father of one of our friends passed away, and my husband and I attended his funeral. I have been to several funerals, but this one was different. This experience inspired me to live a better life, one that gives to others even the more. I didn’t know his father, but after hearing such good things about him I wish I had met such a man.

This Home-Going service celebrated the life of (Mr. James), as I sat there the book of his life started to unfold right before my eyes. The people stood from wall to wall to show their respects to a (pillar) of the community. This was truly a Godly MAN who knew the GOD MAN. (Mr. James) will live forever in eternity, but he will live forever on earth as well. He was an example of who God commands us all to become in our Christian walk. We are commanded to love thy neighbor, do unto others, to give, to forgive, so the bottom line is to serve others. John 12:26 “If anyone serves me, he must follow me; and where I am, there will my servant be also. If anyone serves me, the Father will honor him.”

As the service progressed, it was obvious this man was a Giant. He was a Godly MAN who loved God, his family, his church, and the community. The Minister offered the floor to any who wished to share their history with Mr. James. Many came forth with remarks, and they spoke highly of him. They shared how he touched their lives, and what he meant to them. The stories went on and on as I sat on the edge of the pew waiting for more. The stories  somehow came to life in a way that I became a part of the story as if I was there. I could actually picture the stories taking place. I know, weird but not really because it was that real to me.

He gave of himself for the good of others. Romans 12:1 “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” (Mr. James) left such an impression on those he touched by the way he loved, treated, talked, and cared about them when others walked away.

There were people popping up one after the other to have remarks about (Mr. James), and the relationship each of them shared with him. The bible says, to leave an inheritance for your children’s children. Proverbs 13:22 “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.” Mr. James went beyond the call of duty, and he left an inheritance to all he touched. Have you ever heard the term, “you may be the only Jesus many might ever see?” Well, I truly believe that he represented Jesus in the flesh being moved by compassion and yielding to the will of our Heavenly Father.

(Mr. James) completed his last race, and he entered into his eternal rest. 2 Corinthians 5:8 “We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.” He has passed the baton to all who were inspired, encouraged, blessed, and cheered on by the Godly Spirit he possessed. He has given you the training tools to continue the work of the Lord. He will live forever on earth through you as you take the baton and the message on this God-given mission. Will you take the baton?

Even though I didn’t know (Mr. James), I was truly inspired by his life. Philippians 1:6 “Thank God for He is able to complete the work that He has begun in you.” I am thankful that I was able to witness this celebration of a “Man of Honor.” He was the center of attention on that day, as he paraded before family and friends for the last time on this side. He didn’t receive the purple heart, but he got a NEW HEART not made by man.

We can all learn from the God example of a man (Mr. James) was as he worked as unto the Lord. A servants’ heart will live forever on earth through the testimony of those who were served and blessed by the SERVANT. I hope this has inspired you to strive daily to be more of the SERVANT God has called us to be.



Mar 12

Moving Forward…Talking Heart2Heart


moving forward

Moving Forward…Not Going Back

In 2013, many struggled to make a living just to stay afloat but continued to fall farther and farther behind. You might have felt like you were drowning, but you managed to keep your head barely above water. You tackled situation after situation and still it resulted unsuccessful. The disappointments, set-backs, bad decisions and constant growth of debt was a nightmare. Perhaps, it’s time to change the way you look at life, and focus on succeeding at life. With that being said, you can’t live in the past and expect to move forward into the future. You are literally spinning your wheels, yet you are expecting to gain distance. Where is the logic?

It appears that you lack the skills needed to make logical decisions. For example, you’ve been working a new job for about 3 weeks, and you have this bright idea to buy a new car. So an experienced person shares advice and explains the importance of job stability before making financial decisions. You accept the advice and change your mind about buying the car. This decision lacks the very basic skill which is COMMON SENSE. Not to mention, a week or 2 later there was a layoff, so Thank God you didn’t buy the car. Your thought process must be that of common sense or at least logic if you want to move forward.

Look ahead, and imagine yourself living a successful life. Remember, success is not based on finances only. It’s finding your true self, and your purpose in life. There is no limit to who you can become as you strive to reach your potential. This will take a great deal of work and discipline. Are you up for the challenge? This is a new year, and 2014 is your chance to start fresh with a realistic plan as well as a positive attitude, and faith in the word of God. Psalm 37:5 “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” This is God’s year to act in your life, but you must trust him.

Luke 4:19 (AMP) “To proclaim the accepted and acceptable year of the Lord the day when salvation and the free favors of God profusely abound.” You can direct your life by focusing on what you want, and God will help you reach your expected end. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” You can start by concentrating on your goals, and setting time frames to reach them, but be realistic. It’s important to have a plan that shows how you plan to reach your goals, and it’s especially important to follow the plan.

This process will not be easy, and you may even struggle with it at first. There may even be times you feel like giving up. When this happens just take a deep breath, then continue with your plan with full force. You must declare that you are moving forward. Job 22:28 (KJV) “Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways.”

When you are determined to do something, you will succeed because failing is no longer an option for you. By now you should be the first to say “been there, done that, and bought the tee-shirt,” and now you are only moving forward. It would benefit you to associate yourself with someone who is already successful. A mentor is a good idea, if you are willing to listen and learn from their success. If someone offers to share their knowledge, don’t insult them by debating your point. Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who listens to counsel is wise.” Remember, their success speaks for itself, and you want to gain their knowledge with the hope of applying it to your life.

When moving forward, you must look at your life and make adjustments. You have to leave your past behind and only use it as a learning tool. Because if you are going to move forward, you can no longer dwell on your past mistakes, opinions of others, excuses, drama, failures, or bad relationships. Moving forward is very demanding, and you are the deciding factor of your growth. You have to change the way you think, act, and how you live your life. You have to want to succeed bad enough to let nothing stop your progress. Philippians 3:14 “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the high call of God in Christ Jesus.”  If you can relate to this topic, please leave your comments below. I want to hear your thoughts on Moving Forward.


Focus on Moving Forward>>>>>

Mar 10

Whatever It Is, Let It Go; Talking Heart2Heart

Let it go...


This journey called life is not always a pleasant trip, but it’s a road that we all must travel. However, the length of ones’ trip is based on choices. I see young women stay in a bad relationship for the sake of what they think is LOVE. The relationship has even been physical, and you leave for a short while but you return. You believe the lies, and you convince yourself that he will change. Your decision to stay in a bad relationship with abuse on every level will result in destruction. What is this hold on you? Whatever it is, let it go. There is a better life for you.

Look at your life as it stands, and let me ask you some serious questions. Are you abused emotionally, mentally, or physically? Are you disrespected? Do you feel sad, unhappy, and unloved? Do you fear him? Are you in a controlling relationship? If you answered yes, then it’s best if walk away from this relationship. Perhaps, it’s time to let it go, and make some changes to better your future. The first thought is the first step in making a decision to change the direction of your life.

If you want to make a positive change, you have to make some decisions that will be in your best interest now and later. You can release yourself of all negativity by looking at the pattern that associates you with this negative relationship. 1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.” Negativity requires so much more energy than that of positivity. When you accept negativity in your world, it over shadows any positive that once existed.

Negativity comes in many forms which are all designed to destroy you from the inside out. Romans 10:17 “So then faith come by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” “And this proves that faith comes from a Message heard, and that the Message comes through its having been spoken by Christ.” By hearing negativity over and over it pierces your inner being to the core, and you  follow every demand.

Whatever it is, break free and let it go. The weight of any negative issue can be overpowering, so you have to connect with the positivity you once knew. It’s still there, but it must be revived. You have the power to overcome negativity, but you must want to make the change. Don’t let a situation hold you hostage while your dreams lie in dormant. I promise you can do this just walk away and don’t look back. When you remove yourself from the infected area, you change your thinking and improve your life.

You are your best investment, and your return is based on you making good decisions. Good decisions are those that go with a thought out plan of positive action. You need to search deep within to find out how and why you allowed such behavior, and once you understand it becomes clear that you are no longer the victim or an easy prey. You learn you are worthy of having the best in your life, and you will no longer settle for less. Continue to focus on the result which is to have a healthy life for yourself, and healthy relationships in the future that will add quality to your life. You are in control of your own destiny, and you are empowered to succeed.


Please leave your comments below, and I hope you find strength and courage in this video.





Jeremiah 29:11 “I will bless you with a future filled with hope–a future of success, not of suffering.”

Mar 04

Maturity is a Mindset; Talking Heart2Heart

Grown is your mindset


The definition of adulthood is fully grown and developed, mature and sensible: not childish, of or intended for adults. 1 Corinthians 13:11 “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” You must read this definition in its entirety to fully understand how to sum up adulthood. In our society we associate being a grown up with age which is a serious misconception. There are many who have reached the legal adult age, yet they have not reached the maturity level of an adult. Maturity is a mindset, and it has nothing to do with your age.

There are several levels of maturity based on your knowledge, understanding, and the ability to reasonably cope with situations. This has nothing to do with your age now or later. Maturity is also based on your ability to process thought, and react within reason to certain situations. The way a person deals with pressure or a stressful crisis is a sign of ones’ maturity level because it’s the rational mindset that shows your level of maturity no matter what age. “Growing old is mandatory…Growing up is optional ~Chili Davis.”

Maturity is learned throughout the different stages of your life through experiences, and it’s determined based on the way you respond to circumstances. If you are one who seems to make bad choices over and over, perhaps you lack the important skills needed to react as a mature adult. As maturity is a mindset, it’s imperative to have self-control, discipline, rationality, and common sense. When you are faced with a situation, you must assess the situation before making a final decision.

It’s not too late to change your behavior because it’s possible at any age, but as stated before maturity is a mindset. The battle is in the mind where the change will take place. Romans 12:2 “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” The process will not be easy, and it may even be painful at times. You must have self-control, discipline, responsible behavior, and a positive attitude. During this process, it’s helpful to encourage yourself to continue this course of action. The first step is to change the way you think, and it will change your mindset. Because all changes are made by a thought before the act is carried out.

After you put in the hard work, your life will gradually begin to change. But rest assured you will be tested with a situation, but don’t panic. Approach it as calmly as possible, take a deep breath, gather your information (facts), process your thoughts based on the situation, and have confidence in your learned ability to respond rationally. This may be a long road, but there is a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel because you are on the “Maturity is a Mindset” road. (GPS) You are approaching your destination. Congratulations!!!

Please leave your comments, feedback, opinions, questions, advice, and responses…below:



Mar 01

Embracing Our Differences; Talking Heart2Heart

Embracing Our Differences, opens the door of  opportunities...

Embracing Our Differences, opens the door of opportunities as a nation...

We are One people, One nation, under One God. We all were made in the image of the same God. It wasn’t a White image for the White people, or a Black image for the Black people, or a Hispanic image for the Hispanic people, or an Indian image for the Indian people and so on. Genesis 1:26 “And God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creep upon the earth.” We were created by the one and only Almighty God, yet we struggle to live in unity. He breathed the same breath into all of us, and we all bleed the same red blood. Based on this alone we are more alike than we are different. If we embrace our differences and respect others for being different, we open ourselves up to a whole new world and limitless adventures because of our differences.

We have different cultures, different personalities, different views or perspectives, but that’s the beauty of it all. The differences show the uniqueness of us as a people. Embracing our differences is an art that can only be appreciated in America because it offers a platform which allows you to be expressive in every sense of the word. With that being said, we must embrace our differences, and respect others because this allows each of us to share our individuality. This is the very essences of who and what America was founded upon. America offers the freedom to express who you are without the threat of punishment and that’s the awesomeness of the American way.

Is unity possible when we bring all of our differences to the table? I say yes because it’s our differences that broadens our possibilities as a nation. This can only be done by a selfless nation. In other words, a people with the ability focus on the good of the nation and not on one person. We must have a common goal and set aside individual agendas or the agendas of a certain group. We can use our differences as a resource because there is power in numbers. When you embrace differences and show respect, it makes way for a more pleasant atmosphere with the aroma of success on the rise.

When we embrace our differences, it shows the strength and power we have as a nation. So it’s definitely possible for us to dwell in unity as the animals did on Noah’s ark. When Noah built the ark, he was instructed by God to take 2 of every living creature upon the ark including his family. Genesis 7-9 “And Noah went in, and his sons, and his wife, and his sons’ wives with, into the ark, because of the waters of the flood. Of clean beasts, and of beasts that are not clean, and of fowls, and of every thing that creep upon the earth. There went in two and two unto Noah into the ark, the male and female, as God had commanded Noah.” There was every species represented on the ark dwelling together for forty days and forty nights. I’m sure there were differences among them, and somehow the animals understood the importance of showing respect for their fellow animal. This is implied because the bible doesn’t state any deaths among the ark during the journey. If animals can live together in unity, then the human race is surely capable of much more.


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