Monthly Archive: January 2014

Jan 31

Life of the Family Slips Away; Talking Heart2Heart

Life slips away in the distance

Life of the Family Slips Away in the Distance…

I agree with the title of Fantasias’ book, “Life is not a Fairytale,” because if you don’t have God and family you are failing at life. God created the first family by way of Adam and Eve and earthly families were to pattern afterwards. Genesis 2:22 “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Many are failing the test of life when it comes to being honorable family members. Our families are rapidly decreasing in numbers while we sat back and do nothing to change the dynamics of family. Our children grow up not knowing family members because families are distant geographically and emotionally. We are no longer interacting as families, and this is disheartening. As the life of the family slips away, it’s essential to reconnect with family.

What happened to the summer “Family Reunions” of yesterday? It was a great gathering that was planned months in advance to attend because it strengthened, empowered, and reassured us of who we were and from where we came. It was the history of our family roots that kept us connected. After all we shared a blood line, names, features, characteristics, and personalities that ran so deep, it was impossible to pin-point where the blood line started. Now, family is not highly esteemed at all, so the importance of family appears to be withering away.

How did we get to a such a selfish place in our lives? We are so busy making a living that we don’t have the time to truly live. We forget about family which is one of the most important aspects of life. Many families follow the instruction in (Genesis 1:28) “Be fruitful, and multiple, and replenish [fill] the earth,” but afterwards many go their separate ways. When family members lose contact, the strength of the family is altered. It also weakens the foundational bond of unity, security, and support. Before you realize the devastation of the effect of the weaken state of the family, you are face to face with a heartbreak of a family member passing away unexpectedly.

The reality of losing loved ones can hit you like a ton of bricks. It crashes into you with a mighty force so strong that it takes your breath. The force has so much power that it literally shakes your world upside down. Life is not to be reckoned with because it’s slipping away every second of the day. Yet we are in such turmoil with our everyday lives that we don’t take the time to reconnect with each other. Let’s revive our families by vowing to be a part of positive interaction that will strengthen the base of the family. Don’t let distance separate you from your family members because this allows mishaps to catch you off guard. Will you make an effort to reconnect with your family?


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Jan 25

Worth Much More; Talking Heart2Heart


You are worth much more

Self-Respect Adds Value..

Ladies, it’s time for some straight talk. You are worthy of much more than what you have accepted in your life. You work hard everyday, and you’ve built some stability. You have your own apartment or house, and your own car. You may not be satisfied financially, but you have the drive to continue striving to reach your goals. When you set your mind upon a goal, you don’t stop until you make it reality. So why in the world would you settle for a man who brings nothing to the table? 1 Thessalonians 3:10 “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.”

This type of man works very little if at all, yet you allow him to move in with you and your children. You have rent, food, and bills on top of bills that he doesn’t give anything towards. He doesn’t even have a car, so you let him drive your car. Why? Does he make sure the maintenance is kept up? Does he wash it for you? Does he even keep gas in it? If the answer is NO, there is a problem. RED FLAG, RED FLAG…

What exactly is he adding to your life besides more cost? You get your kids off to school, and you go off to work leaving him in your house, he’s using your water, eating your food, and using your electricity. Is this the man who want to have a future with? He is a player, and you are the target. He will run the course of this play as long as you allow it. Ephesians 5:6 “Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.”

You deserve someone who compliments your life as you compliment his life because it’s a partnership. In a good relationship giving and receiving is a great part of it, so if you are the only one giving then you need to review your little arrangement. An arrangement of this sort will stunt the growth of your future and prolong your goals or even kill your dreams. I hope you will soon realize that you don’t have to give yourself to someone who obviously is taking advantage in many ways. As this affects you mentally, emotionally, and financially, this probably won’t end well for you. 1 Corinthians 15:33 “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”

My Pastor gave a prophetic word for the New Year “The Year For God To Act.” God wants to act in your behalf, but you have to do your part. You need to come to terms with your situation, and you must be willing to do what’s best for your life and your future by walking away. Because true love is worth it. Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Ladies, you deserve a real MAN who will value, respect, and honor your presence. This MAN will carry the weight of the relationship as a protector and a provider. He will be your Knight, and honor you as his princess. Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” A relationship like this has the potential to grow into something beautiful because you both understand your roles, and he brings his best to the table because you are WORTH it. Can you see your value?


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Jan 20

Dr. King’s Contribution to the World; Talking Heart2Heart




This is the day the world honored Dr. Martin Luther King for his services, achievements and dedication to the world. He put his life on the line for all people because he saw the world through the eyes of justice. He quoted, “INJUSTICE ANYWHERE IS A THREAT TO JUSTICE EVERYWHERE.” So he was destined to lead the world in a direction of fairness. The world was forced to open its eyes to a better way for all people. He was a man on a mission that insisted on equality for all. His life represented the true meaning of courage in every sense of the word. His mark on the world will forever affect every living being who passes through this earth because of the impact of his leadership.

As he led the people into a life worth living, it was clear that this movement would intensify with a vengeance. He was ready to accept any and all punishment for the fight for justice. During the sixties justice was a right that only a select people enjoyed, but it was time for a change. When he accepted the leadership role in the civil rights movement, he knew this journey would be a long one. Dr. King was the “Moses” of the movement, as he delivered the message to free the people from bondage. The bondage was the inequality, unfairness, injustice, and inhuman treatment that occurred day after day.

Many lost their lives fighting for the right to be human and to be treated as such. The road was long and hard, but it was necessary. The power of a collective people was awesome as they were on one accord in their journey to EQUALITY. They had the heart of giants as they took the leap into the unknown for equality and justice. So to honor Dr. King is the least we can do for the AWESOME contribution he and many others made. It’s a matter of being appreciative to the those who stepped in the LINE OF FIRE for all generations to come.

Looking at movies such as “The Rosa Parks Story,” opens your eyes to the truth about the life of blacks in the 60’s. They endured degrading and demeaning acts everyday of their lives as though they were animals, but even animals were treated better than black people. So when we as a people don’t take advantage of the very thing that many lost their lives for it’s a DISAPPOINTMENT. Voting may seem simple today, but in the 60’s it wasn’t a right for black people. So when I hear people say, “I don’t vote because my vote won’t matter.” It does matter. Because when you VOTE, you are speaking loud and clear.

I believe Dr. King would be overjoyed to know that we (ALL THE PEOPLE) have put a BLACK man in the WHITE HOUSE not once but twice. So I think he would be proud of the progress we have made, but not satisfied enough to say we have overcome. So will you join the move to continue the progress as we SUCCEED as one people? I look forward to hearing your thoughts, so leave your comments below.



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Jan 15

Are You on the Wrong End? Talking Heart2Heart

Hunter or Hunted

Ladies, are you on the wrong end…The Hunter or Being Hunted?

I saw an episode of “The Steve Harvey Show,” and he had a guest who was desperately seeking to find a husband. Steve arranged a date for her, so he could observe during the date. As soon as her date sat down, she drilled him about love, relationship, marriage, children, and family. It was quite obvious that the guy was overwhelmed by her aggressiveness, and it appeared to be a turn off as well. When she returned to the show, Steve immediately told her that she was on the wrong end of this plot. She was doing the chasing, and this was running men away from her. We (women) are to be hunted or chased because we are the PRIZE. Proverbs 18:22 “HE who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.Are you on the wrong end hunting for Mr. Right?

Every woman dreams of a Knight and Shining Armor coming to sweep her off her feet, but many times impatience plays a part in the situation. Some women take control of the situation and become the hunter instead of being hunted. She is on the wrong end of the relationship because the roles are switched. When this occurs, you might end up in a relationship that wasn’t in your future. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” When you take things into your own hands, the relationship may be doomed from the start because the play was forced. When anything or anyone is forced to do something, it’s more likely than not that some damage has taken place. Sometimes damage is not noticed right away because your view may be obscured. Your focus may be on other things in the relationship or the hype of having a relationship.

In this modern society, the proper ways of yesterday has taken a dramatic turn. Women are now just as aggressive as men, and in some cases more aggressive which is out-of-order. When you are on the wrong end, things are not as clear because you are out-of-place. Your place in a relationship is very important because it allows you to see the very foundation on which it stands. You don’t want to get years down the road and realize your relationship happened because you chased and caught your mate. This may even cause problems down the line because your relationship is only as strong as the foundation it stands on.

Relationships should be viewed as one of the most important life choices you will ever face in your lifetime, so the virtue of patience is imperative. When you exercise patience, it may prevent you from getting involved with the wrong mate. You must believe that there is a special someone designed just for you, and I believe this was done before you were born. Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.”

Ladies, for this reason alone just know that you don’t have to hunt down or chase after anyone. 1 Corinthians 11:7 “The woman is the GLORY of the man.” With that being said, walk in the GLORY that you are, and don’t end up on the wrong end of a relationship. Let’s have a round table on this subject, so leave your comments below:

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Jan 11

Say No To Resolutions; Talking Heart2Heart

No Resolutions!!!

Say No To Resolutions, and YES to lifestyle changes…

It’s the beginning of a new year, and many have made their resolutions for the year. It’s a longtime tradition that has been a part of our society for decades, so naturally it continues without saying. But I say, NO to resolutions because a resolution is merely a hype that only last for a short time. It’s the newness of the resolution that hypes it up, but the endurance is short-lived. One of the reasons that a New Years Resolution is destined for failure is because it’s put off until the first day of the new year with no plan in sight. So I say No to resolutions, and Yes to a lifestyle change.

When you make your New Years Resolution, I believe you make it in good faith and with good intentions. But if you are honest most resolutions are unrealistic and the expectation is too great. You may want to lose X amount of weight, save X amount of dollars, stop smoking or drinking in a month or 2 all of which takes a great deal of thought and time. When you attempt to change what seems like a lifetime of behaviors, it must be carefully planned out. If you fail to plan, you are setting yourself up for failure. So for that reason, I say No to resolutions and Yes to a lifestyle change. Jeremiah 7:5 “Change the way you are living and stop doing the things you are doing.”

A lifestyle change is making small changes and setting small goals which are more obtainable. These changes are met by taking one step at a time because breaking habits can be quite challenging. A sure way to motivate yourself to continue on the journey of changing your life is to focus on the result. If your goal is to change your eating habit, you should focus on how the change will affect your overall health not to mention dropping a couple of sizes. It’s also important to ask for support from your family and friends because it makes the journey much more exciting. 2 Corinthians 4:16 “Therefor we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day.”

Approach the changes with the mindset of succeeding at life, and becoming a better person inside and out. When you make positive changes, the change will appear in small ways but it will surely surface. Lifestyle changes are made one day at a time, but it has long-term benefits. If you Say No to a resolution, and yes to a lifestyle change you will eventually become the person you were destined to be. Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

I would like to hear your thoughts on this post, so please leave your comments below:


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Jan 04

It’s Your Choice; Life or Death? Talking Heart2Heart

Your Choice

GOD’S WAY > LIFE and MY OWN WAY > DEATH; It’s Your Choice…

It’s the beginning of a new year, and you have the opportunity to make a fresh start. As life is precious, so live everyday as if it were your last but on the right path. Start by making life-long decisions with purpose. If you had several regrets in your life last year, you might want to check to see if you are traveling the road of life or death. It’s your choice; life or death? Which one will you choose?

The road of life is the plan God has for you. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.” The road of death is doing your own thing, and following your own plan because in your mind you know what’s best. “For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live.”

God gives free will to every man to choose as he/she will. You have the right to live your life as you wish. Deuteronomy 30:19 “I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, [that] I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live: Which will you choose? It’s your choice life or death? God tells you the blessing that comes with the choice of life as well as the curse that comes with the choice of death. You decide.

Deuteronomy 30:15-16 “See I have set before you this day life and good, and death and evil. [If you obey the commandments of the Lord your God which] I command you today, to love the Lord your God, to walk in His ways, and to keep His commandments and His statutes and His ordinances, then you shall live and multiply, and the Lord your God will bless you in the land into which you go to possess.”

The benefit that comes with the choice of life certainly out ways that of death which is the choice of serving the DEVIL. Deuteronomy 30:17-18 “But if your [mind and] heart turn away and you will not hear, but are drawn away to worship other gods and serve them. I declare to you today that you shall surely perish.”

When you choose life, you are entitled to a life full of blessings and prosperity. Deuteronomy 30:20 “For He (The Lord) is your life and the length of your days, that you may dwell in the land which the Lord swore to give to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.”  I have a word for you, life is an everlasting state so choose life. This is a decision that your life literally depends on, so make the right choice. The question remains, which will you choose; LIFE or DEATH? PROCEED WITH CAUTION!!!


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